It’s not easy watching a friend go through a rough time, especially when it feels like the world is just piling on. A few weeks ago, my best friend of over 30 years hit a really hard spot in life—she came out of a long-term relationship that ended painfully. We’ve been through everything together over the years, the good, the bad, and all the awkward moments in between, so seeing her struggle like this was heartbreaking.
But you know what? The thing about long-lasting friendships is that no matter how difficult the journey gets, you’re never alone. Being there for her during this time has been one of the most rewarding and meaningful things I’ve ever done. Sure, it hasn’t always been easy to find the right words or the right way to help, but sometimes, just showing up is enough.
She’s the kindest, sweetest person I know, always there for everyone else. And that’s why it hurt to see her in pain—she deserves all the love, happiness, and peace this world has to offer. But as anyone who’s been through a tough breakup knows, the path to healing isn’t a straight line, and it takes time. So, I’ve been there, in the messy, quiet moments. Whether it was offering a listening ear, sharing a laugh over a long walk, or just sitting together in silence, it’s been about creating a space where she could feel safe to process everything.
It’s amazing how small acts of support—checking in, reminding her of her strength, and giving her the time she needs to heal—can make all the difference. It’s been a reminder that sometimes, the most powerful way to help someone isn’t to fix everything but simply to walk alongside them.
Over the last few days, I’ve seen her slowly regain her spark. She’s taking small steps toward moving forward, building a new chapter of her life after this difficult ending. While she’s still navigating the ups and downs of healing, I’m proud of the progress she’s made and the person she’s always been—stronger than she gives herself credit for.
If you have a friend going through something similar, my advice is simple: Be there. It doesn’t matter how big or small your gestures are; what matters is that you show up consistently, without judgment. Sometimes, being a friend means being a quiet presence, letting them feel heard and understood, and giving them the space they need to find their own way forward.
To my best friend: You are loved more than words can express. You’ve been my rock, my partner in crime, and my greatest supporter. Watching you find your way through this has been both humbling and inspiring. I’m so grateful to be by your side as you begin this next chapter.
And to anyone else out there supporting a friend through a tough time: Keep showing up. It’s the best thing you can do.